So when are you getting married?
When are you getting your masters?
When are you getting that new job?
When. When. When.
These questions or rather questions like these are forever imposed on us. Quiet frankly we impose them on ourselves too and with time the questions change aswell. No one knows exactly why we do it, sometimes its because our friends are doing the exact same thing. Or its the “right thing” to do.
And I agree there are certain things you have to do in order to go somewhere or be something. Your life will not get any momentum unless you make changes and decide to move wherever, no I don’t mean take your coffee from the kitchen and sit in the couch! No No!
What I mean is, sometimes life choices are hard but needed if you want that extra cash, if you want your own business, if you want whatever you want. It won’t just drop on your lap…..unless you want rain and even then you need to sit outside! But, what happens when these timelines come in between what you want to do and what you are supposed to do?
You guessed it. We get stressed. Now, I would have to admit that this generation perhaps is the most stressed generation of all times and it is for a number of reasons but more so because its so easy to compare yourself with someone. Now you can compare yourself with someone in the other side of globe, people you don’t even know, people you may never meet. Times were simpler when it was just your bitchy aunty comparing everyone was it not? Well, that is life, with the good of being connected there comes a whole lot of comparing.
But, how do we stop these ? Stop ourselves from turning into ticking time bombs.
Learn patience :
So here is what I tell you. When stressed forget the rest. Forget what your far cousin is doing and when he did it. Forget what your best friend is doing and when he did it. The truth is we all are so busy trying to be the timeliners we forget the one thing needed for us to do well, which is patience.
We get impatient and we quit, we get impatient cause we compare.
Impatience is perhaps the one thing that stops you from being great at what you do. Left guitar after 2 lessons, left dance classes after 3. You get my point? To get better you need time and patience both of which you won’t have time for if you are simply comparing yourself.
Know your future:
Now its true you can’t quite know what is in the future but everyone can assume where they will go by looking at where they are. We lie and say tomorrow we will do it, but its the habits of today that will make you. So, instead of racing against time, make it friend and work with. Use time well, use effort and energy well.
Get crazy confused :
Get confused, figure it out, take time out because kya pata kal ho na ho… I just had to. Now, let me tell you why its best to not race against the time but rather take the time. The answer is simple choices.
Your choices make or break you. What you did a few years ago shaped you. I know its daunting and not ideal but it better to know that you took your time to figure it out. A friend once told me “No one will never know you took a year off in 5 years.” No one cares. You shouldn’t too, stop doing what you are unsure of doing simply because you want to do something. That was english my friends take it in. I am not even going to edit that cause it makes sense to me and you won’t remember this in the next 5 years. So, Hah! jokes on you.
Now, I am not saying that you need to ninja chop your way into living life in your own terms and time. Maybe start small like budgeting out the vacation you always wanted to go to but never had the time, or that dress you always wanted to wear but was not “in style”. For once listen to me or to Nike and Just do it! (in your own time) Start small and built big. Like many say “Rome was not built in a day” because it takes Time to built it! Duh.
Lots of love people with potential. I hope this post touched you where it matters (no pun intended) cause everyone needs a blog awakening sometimes 😉
Go hard or Go home.I am going home. So much more comfort there.So my life took a quick 180 turn (are you not glad I didn’t say 360
I have written many posts on passion or the rather on the redundant and over used titles of “Do what you love”.
The standard food ordering for any Nepali consists of momo, some kind of chilli and a fried starch.